In Korea, on the 100th day after a child's birth, a small feast is prepared to celebrate the child's having survived this difficult period. If the child is sick at this time, the family passes the day with neither announcement nor party, for to do otherwise is considered bad luck for the infant.
At this time the samshin halmoni is honored with offerings of rice and soup in gratitude for having cared for the infant and the mother, and for having helped them live through a difficult period. The family, relatives and friends then celebrate with rice cakes, wine, and other delicacies such as red and black bean cakes sweetened with sugar or honey.
To prevent potential harm to the child and to bring him or her good luck and happiness, red bean cakes are customarily placed at the four compass points within the house. If the steamed rice cakes are shared with 100 people, it is believed that the child will have a long life. Therefore, rice cakes are usually sent to as many people as possible to help celebrate the happiness of the occasion. Those who receive rice cakes return the vessels with skeins of thread, expressing the hope of longevity, and rice and money, symbolizing future wealth.
Such customs are also part of the tol, or first birthday, celebration. Because of the high infant mortality rates in the past, this celebration is considered to be even more important. Like the 100th day celebration, it begins with offerings of rice and soup to the samshin halmoni. However, the highlight of this celebration is when the child symbolically foretells his or her own future.
For this ritual, the child is dressed in new traditional Korean clothes. A male child wears the traditional hood worn by unmarried youths, and the female wears make-up.
The child is seated before a table of various foods and objects such as thread, books, notebooks, brushes, ink and money which have all been given to the family by friends and relatives. The child is urged to pick up an object from the table, as it is believed the one selected first will foretell the child's future. If the child picks up a writing brush or book, for example, he is destined to be a scholar. If he picks up money or rice, he will be wealthy; cakes or other food, a government official; a sword or bow, a military commander. If the child picks up the thread, it is believed he will live a long life.
This is followed by feasting, singing and playing with the toddler. Most often guests will present gifts of money, clothes, or gold rings to the parents for the child at this time. Upon departure, guests are given packages of rice cakes and other foods to take with them. This sharing of rice cakes is thought to bring the child long life and happiness.
Now, with all that traditional stuff being said, today was Aiden's 1st birthday, January 3rd!! Technically, since Korea is 14 hours ahead of us in time, today, for the most part, was Aiden's 1st birthday! I wanted to celebrate by eating at a Korean restaurant this evening, but soon found out the 2 we considered weren't open after 5 on Sunday, and the other one was closed - go figure! I was really bummed about that, since I really wanted to experience Korean food! But, now I'll just have to wait till we get to experience the real thing. I can wait! I've waited this long, right?!
So I've been thinking about Aiden all day, wondering what his birthday celebration was like, trying to be happy for him and his foster family. When yeah, I'm a little bummed about that too. But hey, we'll have a lot more celebrations for the rest of his life!
On a different note, Paula and her hubby are in Korea this very minute seeing the sights, enjoying themselves, and oh yeah, playing with this little cutie till time to come home!
I am hanging on every last photo, post, and comment! Paula was so nice to take Aiden's Christmas and Birthday gifts to Holt in Korea for him. Remember this stuff?
So I hope you enjoy all these things Aiden. I hope you've had a fantastic 1st birthday!!! We'll have a lot more celebrations when you come home to us. HAPPY BIRTHDAY Aiden, I can not wait to see you! :)
